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Happy Father’s Day…I Hope Yours Wasn’t Hijacked

HFD MomFriends,

I had a wonderful Father’s Day with my family sharing & laughing over a meal. I also am very blessed to have such wonderful memories of my own father Leroy, who passed away nearly four years ago. There is never a day that goes by when I don’t think of him, but today is especially nostalgic for me. As I wish all of the fathers out there a very happy day – their day, I must briefly respond to those women, namely some single mothers, who think it’s OK to hijack this holiday from men. I shared this on Facebook & I stand by it:

I have really had it with some women trying to hijack Father’s Day just because you had children with an irresponsible man & he is absentee. Let the men have their ONE day ladies. Women are not fathers nor can they be. Women aren’t female versions of men (or vice-versa).You are a woman, a mother doing the best you can and/or a phenomenal job in the absence of your children’s father. Unless some of you ladies have suddenly grown male sex organs & therefore know what it’s like to be a man, stop it with the “I’m Mom and Dad” nonsense, that’s impossible. Just be happy with YOUR day which we celebrated last month…sheesh! The irony is that you never hear single fathers wishing themselves a happy Mother’s Day…#howmuchattentiondoyouneed

 

This debate over single mothers declaring themselves as “both Mom & Dad” boils down to two sides – those who believe that parental roles are gender restrictive, and those who expand that to define it merely as anyone who fulfills the role in question, whether they are male or female. Obviously, I am in the former group. People who believe that it’s OK to wish single mothers “Happy Father’s Day” (or men “Happy Mother’s Day”) have succumb to this underlying missive from some in America, to neutralize gender, and this goes against humanity itself, which is equally dependent on procreation, therefore, both genders. This is an anti-humanity position as far as I’m concerned but I digress. The great irony of those of the latter persuasion, is that many of them were raised in single parent homes, and though they make the claim that “Mom is my Dad” or “Dad is my Mom” – there is still an underlying feeling that “something is missing”. This is usually the case when boys are raised by a single mother or daughters are raised by a single Dad, if the parent was not wise enough to seek help in co-rearing the child with someone of the opposite gender. Some have done this & their children are better for it and I am not speaking of such parents. If a single parent is fulfilling both roles as adequately as proponents of gender-neutral parenting claim, then there should be zero complaints or lamenting regarding the missing gender! You cannot celebrate your parent for fulfilling both roles and in the same breath complain that you did not have the other. It doesn’t work that way. As someone inevitably retorted to me on Facebook:

“While I do not support legalized same-sex marriage, I also recognize that in many homes gender alone does not define the role of mother and father.What about same-sex couples who are raising children, and each parent fulfills a different gender role?”

The answer is that in such households where the parents are of the same gender, only one role is being fulfilled but personalities & methods can be different. Gender is not something that can just be turned off or on like a light bulb in the same person, although some have tried. If children are being reared by two men then they have two fathers to honor on Father’s Day. Two lesbians raising children together mean that there are two mothers. Period. In any case, all I’m saying to the single Moms (because you pretty much never hear a single father declaring that he is both & should be honored as such) is that both genders have a day, stop hijacking Father’s Day from the men…

 

Until next time! God Bless!

 
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Posted by on June 15, 2014 in Philosophy, Society, Uncategorized

 

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Trivia: Firstborn is Number One

Trivia: Firstborn is Number One

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And as you all may have guessed, I’m numero uno among my siblings…

Originally posted on Simply Stated Blogs:

trophy-office_300Good news for all of the eldest children out there: A new study reported by The Guardianappears to show that if you’re the firstborn child in your family and female, you are statistically more likely to be the most ambitious and well-qualified of your whole clan.

As for the magic number between ages for kids, the study found that leaving a gap of at least four years between each child leads to greater chances of high-achieving tykes—and the wider the gap, the better.

Read the whole article here. And when you’re done, check out 10 ways to be closer to your siblings. (Hint: Gloating about how much more ambitious you are then them is not a wise strategy!)

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Posted by on June 10, 2014 in Uncategorized

 

On The Pulse Of Morning: Remembering Dr. Maya Angelou 1928-2014

Maya A 2By now you all must have heard about the passing away of Maya Angelou (April 4, 1928 – May 28, 2014). Maya Angelou is one of my favorite writers & poets of all time. I remember first reading I KNOW WHY THE CAGED BIRD SINGS & how it touched me as a young woman. I remember the beautiful inaugural poem she wrote for former president of the United States, Bill Clinton. Her poetry was uplifting & encouraging & I have all of her books on my shelf. She will be missed but lived a full life touching so many others. To remember her I wanted to share my favorite poem from her, “On the Pulse of Morning”, the inaugural poem she wrote for Bill Clinton in 1993. So much of her work was dedicated to lifting black Americans up & humanity itself. We’ve physically lost a great treasure who will remain with us through her words. My prayers go out to her son, other family, friends & colleagues. She will be greatly missed:

This is my favorite poem by Dr. Maya Angelou, “On the Pulse of Morning”, written in 1993 for the inauguration of former President Bill Clinton. I’ll never forget how empowered I felt reading it as a junior in high school. Enjoy:

 

A Rock, A River, A Tree
Hosts to species long since departed,
Marked the mastodon.The dinosaur, who left dry tokens
Of their sojourn here
On our planet floor,
Any broad alarm of their hastening doom
Is lost in the gloom of dust and ages.

But today, the Rock cries out to us, clearly, forcefully,
Come, you may stand upon my
Back and face your distant destiny,
But seek no haven in my shadow.

I will give you no more hiding place down here.

You, created only a little lower than
The angels, have crouched too long in
The bruising darkness,
Have lain too long
Face down in ignorance.

Your mouths spilling words
Armed for slaughter.

The Rock cries out today, you may stand on me,
But do not hide your face.

Across the wall of the world,
A River sings a beautiful song,
Come rest here by my side.

Each of you a bordered country,
Delicate and strangely made proud,
Yet thrusting perpetually under siege.

Your armed struggles for profit
Have left collars of waste upon
My shore, currents of debris upon my breast.

Yet, today I call you to my riverside,
If you will study war no more. Come,

Clad in peace and I will sing the songs
The Creator gave to me when I and the
Tree and the stone were one.

Before cynicism was a bloody sear across your
Brow and when you yet knew you still
Knew nothing.

The River sings and sings on.

There is a true yearning to respond to
The singing River and the wise Rock.

So say the Asian, the Hispanic, the Jew
The African and Native American, the Sioux,
The Catholic, the Muslim, the French, the Greek
The Irish, the Rabbi, the Priest, the Sheikh,
The Gay, the Straight, the Preacher,
The privileged, the homeless, the Teacher.
They hear. They all hear
The speaking of the Tree.

Today, the first and last of every Tree
Speaks to humankind. Come to me, here beside the River.

Plant yourself beside me, here beside the River.

Each of you, descendant of some passed
On traveller, has been paid for.

You, who gave me my first name, you
Pawnee, Apache and Seneca, you
Cherokee Nation, who rested with me, then
Forced on bloody feet, left me to the employment of
Other seekers–desperate for gain,
Starving for gold.

You, the Turk, the Swede, the German, the Scot …
You the Ashanti, the Yoruba, the Kru, bought
Sold, stolen, arriving on a nightmare
Praying for a dream.

Here, root yourselves beside me.

I am the Tree planted by the River,
Which will not be moved.

I, the Rock, I the River, I the Tree
I am yours–your Passages have been paid.

Lift up your faces, you have a piercing need
For this bright morning dawning for you.

History, despite its wrenching pain,
Cannot be unlived, and if faced
With courage, need not be lived again.

Lift up your eyes upon
The day breaking for you.

Give birth again
To the dream.

Women, children, men,
Take it into the palms of your hands.

Mold it into the shape of your most
Private need. Sculpt it into
The image of your most public self.
Lift up your hearts
Each new hour holds new chances
For new beginnings.

Do not be wedded forever
To fear, yoked eternally
To brutishness.

The horizon leans forward,
Offering you space to place new steps of change.
Here, on the pulse of this fine day
You may have the courage
To look up and out upon me, the
Rock, the River, the Tree, your country.

No less to Midas than the mendicant.

No less to you now than the mastodon then.

Here on the pulse of this new day
You may have the grace to look up and out
And into your sister’s eyes, into
Your brother’s face, your country
And say simply
Very simply
With hope
Good morning.

Listen to the recording of Dr. Angelou’s inaugural reading of this poem here.

 

- Dr. Maya Angelou, January 20th 1993

 
 

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The top zombie short films you should watch right now

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Top Zombie Short Films

Originally posted on Danger Word:

We’re very picky about horror movies, but Danger Word is in good company with other zombie shorts on YouTube. Here are the top six zombie short picks you should watch in bite-sized morsels. The best zombie stories are about people, after all. You won’t be disappointed! (More to come! This list will grow. Feel free to suggest other links.)
1–Danger Word. Don’t take our word for it: Geek Tyrant just called Danger Word “a great zombie short” and “fantastic and intense.” www.dangerword.com (Directed by Luchina Fisher. Written by Steven Barnes and Tananarive Due)

2–CargoIf you haven’t seen this zombie short about a man and a baby, watch it now. It doesn’t have 6.1 million views for nothing. As good as it gets, and it’s only 7 minutes long. You’ll want to watch it more than once. Watch it HERE. (Directed by Ben Howling and…

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Posted by on May 28, 2014 in Uncategorized

 

Vetting Donnelly

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Walter discusses the GOP & a Tea Party Conservative potential for governor in California.

Originally posted on OC Political:

131106-Tim-Donnelly-4051Tim Donnelly is one of those figures who seems to draw intense reactions from either “side” of the current schism running within the Republican Party. That schism is roughly drawn along the “establishment”/moderate side of the party versus the conservative base/Tea Party. Inasmuch as the conservative base is “all in” for Donnelly, the establishment side is equally strident and dug in that Donnelly essentially is not fit to lead the Republican Party in California. On the conservative base side we hear the constant refrain that the establishment can’t win without the base, but the conservative base does not seem to recognize that the party can’t win without the establishment either. On the establishment side, there is such fear of losing and continuing to be a permanent minority in California that anything a Tea Party type candidate does that appears to upset minority groups brings out quite a bit of loathing, sometimes…

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Posted by on May 24, 2014 in Uncategorized

 

5 Tips For Raising Black Children Who LOVE to Read!

5 Tips For Raising Black Children Who LOVE to Read!

Originally posted on chronicles of harriet:

Once Upon A Time in AfrikaA couple of years ago, I got the notion to develop a program that would inspire Black youth to read Science Fiction and Fantasy and teach them to write it well. I knew Black children would only respond positively to such a symposium if they saw themselves as the heroes and sheroes. I also knew I had the perfect team of authors and artists to give them such images.

I presented the idea to the State of Black Science Fiction – a collective of authors, artists and filmmakers who create speculative works for and about Black people – and the Black Science Fiction and Fantasy Youth Symposium was born.

April 26, 2014 marked the day of the 2nd Black Science Fiction and Fantasy Youth Symposium, which we did in partnership with the Wren’s Nest.

After a Blacktastic day of African drill performances; readings of our current works…

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Posted by on May 12, 2014 in Uncategorized

 

CHECK BACK HERE Monday, 4/28/14 for a link to the FULL FILM!

Originally posted on Danger Word:

Danger Word’s online release is Monday, 4/28/14. The URL www.dangerword.com will take you to the actual film instead of to the blog. You may continue checking the blog here at http://www.dangerwordfilm.wordpress.com.

Thank you so much for your support!!!!

Here’s our imdb.com page. You can also see stills and photos from our shoot on our Facebook page!

Danger Word was nominated for Best Narrative Short at the Pan African Film Festival (2014) and the BronzeLens Film Festival (2013). 

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Posted by on April 22, 2014 in Uncategorized

 
 
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