My friend & fellow blogger Walter Myers III shared some wonderful commentary on Facebook regarding the Yahoo article on the recent meeting of Chick-Fil-A CEO & a gay rights activist & I wanted to share his thoughts:
“I just learned about this today, and I think it is a great thing. What I think gay activists need to understand is that when one is a follower of Christ, one cannot pick and choose what they believe. Regardless of what we believe, we are called to love all people, and being for traditional marriage does not make us “anti-gay.” The Bible is clear about homosexuality, so when a Christian opposes same-sex marriage, it is not because we don’t like those who are gay or are against them having equal rights under the law. With respect to marriage, we don’t believe that same-sex marriage is equal because it is clear that it is not the same thing as heterosexual marriage. Just calling two things equal doesn’t make them equal.
A friend of mine argued today that I am discriminating against a group of people, and used the example of heterosexual couples who can’t have children to say that marriage is not about procreation. My response was that the fact that some couples can’t have children is because something went wrong, but the design of man and woman is to be able to continue the species. It’s the same as saying that a football game that produces a score of 0-0 is not a football game because no one scored. The design of the game IS to score, but that doesn’t mean it is NOT a game because no one scored. By the same token, the fact that some heterosexual couples can’t have children in no way detracts from the fact that they are married and that is the institution designed to produce children.
Some compare the fight for interracial marriage as equivalent to same-sex marriage. Interracial marriage is not actually “interracial,” because there is only ONE race, the human race. Just because people divide themselves into racial categories has nothing to do with the fact that regardless of these racial categories, all men and women of any race can procreate naturally. So interracial marriage has always been a false distinction because there is no such thing as “interracial marriage.”
Some say that because about fifty percent of marriages end in divorce, even in Christian marriages, that this shows marriage is not a special institution. But the fact that we as people, who are fallen and fallible, end up in broken relationships in no way affects the ideal that is marriage. Just imagine if everyone gave up on other ideals in life because they weren’t successful in more than fifty percent of their endeavors. Life is a struggle, and nothing is promised in life, so we make the best of it we can, and we always hold out hope for the best.
So regarding discrimination against gays because I may be against redefining the definition of marriage, I think it is instructive to point out that discrimination occurs in all walks of life, and that there is not always ill intent. Aren’t women that are not very attractive excluded when they can’t make it to the Miss America or Miss USA pageant? That, indeed, is discrimination of some sort. When white women won’t date black men because they are black, or black women won’t date white men because they are white, is that discrimination? Am I being excluded from joining the Pacific Club in Newport Beach because I can’t afford the $15,000 membership? In each case, there is some exclusion, but the “discrimination” in these cases is simply meeting some particular criteria that has no intent expressly meant to cause harm to others. And in the same way, marriage being between a man and a woman is simply a way to distinguish a particular type of union (not to “exclude” or “discriminate against” anyone), which is the only union that can possibly produce children naturally.
From the Christian perspective, we are all sinners, and we all have to deal with our sin. There are various types of sin, some obviously more heinous than others. But why would a Christian, whose charge is to bring others into the kingdom, treat gays differently from anyone else when it comes to sin? Homosexuality is just one of many types of sin that keeps that person separated from God. Gays need the love of Christ just as much as anyone else, and must face their sins as I have to face my own. So any Christian would be doing someone who is gay a great disservice by accepting either homosexuality or same-sex marriage as normative, even though it may pain us to do so. Either a Christian is going to be true to God’s word, or they are not going to be true to God’s word. But in being true to God’s word, there should be no greater friend to gays than Christians, and we should be the ones who are the first to help if gays are treated in an intentionally harmful or hateful manner. Just because we disagree on same-sex marriage does not mean we are not to serve a gay person as our fellow man or woman in goodness, in love, and in truth.”
Please read the Yahoo article by Chris Good HERE.